Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Blog #5: A devastating event
I chose to read the powerpoint posted by M. Kampschroeder on miscarriage. As a mother of three, I have never experienced such a devastating event, but I have been a part of someones life who has experienced this event on more than one occasion. And let me tell you it was such a horrible time. I wasn't quite sure how to handle it. I didn't know what to say to her or how to be there for her. All I could do was give her a shoulder to cry on. The powerpoint gave me a lot of insight on miscarriages. A very small percentage of pregnancies result in miscarriages. That would put anyone's mind at ease. Unfortunately this wasn't the case for my dear friend. She cried and cried. She would ask questions- why me? Why would God allow this to happen? Everything happens for a reason, what reason is this??? So many questions that I just couldn't answer for her. I felt helpless. After reading the slides, I know this is all a normal reaction to the loss of a fetus. It is okay for people to mourn. At the time I wish I had more knowledge on miscarriages, because I would have known what to say. I would have encouraged her to mourn and not feel guilt. I knew it was nothing she did. My challenge was getting her to realize that. To this day, she is trying to conceive. I pray each and everyday God will bless her with a child. The most important information I got from the slides was that women who experience multiply miscarriages will eventually have a healthy baby. This I hope one day will be what happens to my dear friend.
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Melissa,
ReplyDeleteI chose the same topic to blog about. I have not experienced one (and I hope not to). I am 10 weeks pregnant now. I have been in the same situation with a friend. It is so hard, because there really isn't anything we can say. A shoulder is the best bet. The powerpoint helped ease my fears. But, I feel it's all in God's hands. Good luck to your friend!
Melissa
ReplyDeleteIt's not an easy to comfort someone that has had a miscarriage. I have had two and they were hard for me. One of my micarriages my mother was there, the other one I did not know that I was pregnant. I was glad that she was there, it was hard for me to understand what I did wrong to have a miscarriage. It just happens.
I am always curious as to why life works they way it does. I know that most people who don't want to have children are making the right decision because if they don't want kids then they probally wouldn't take very good care of them. I know many people who can't have kids and wonder why these are the ones who want them so badly. They would be the ones to love and care for them the most. Why aren't the roles and thoughts reversed?
ReplyDeleteSorry I posted the wrong comment on the wrong blog that I read. My comment for your post was to say I also had a friend who's wife had a miscarriage. I think from a man's point of view it is not as hard on men as women. His wife was the one who had a child inside her body growing. Not to say that he wasn't upset about the loss but to his wife it was devastating. The loss of a child is so hard and one I hope to never experience.
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